In Pursuit of Happiness

by Asatar Bair on June 27, 2012

[Photo courtesy of Trey Ratcliff]
Quote taken from Follow Your Heart: The Map to Illumination, pp 54-55

Sometimes it seems like life is trying to make you unhappy. Why else would there be so much tension and difficulty?

Especially now, when humanity is poised on the brink of great change. Never before has the choice been so stark: either we unite as one human species, in partnership with the animals and plants that form our collective ecosystem, or we endanger our existence.

It has helped me to see the areas of tension and difficulty in my own life as growing pains, and to recall that these pains are inevitable with a life of growth. But this is different from unhappiness.

In my own life, I have faced great stress over the last year, with big life changes such as welcoming my wife’s mother into our home, and then all of us moving to a new home together, which have caused plenty of challenges. None of it has made me unhappy, though. I feel happier than ever. I find happiness in embracing the changes, pains and all, in the faith that it was given to me by an infinitely-loving Universe, whose desire for me is the same as my desire for myself: to reach toward my own ever-expanding horizon.

Another major source of unhappiness is the wounds within our hearts. Our hearts give us pain as a message: heal the wounds. A great way to do that is to take a retreat, such as Puran and Susanna’s upcoming summer retreat, Uncover Your Heart, Transform Your Life.

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Please share a comment!

Yours in the One Heart,


P.S. I would love it if you would become a fan of IAM Heart, and the IAM University of the Heart on Facebook. Thank you!

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Ethan Bair June 27, 2012 at 1:01 pm

I love you, Asatar.

Asatar Bair June 27, 2012 at 5:12 pm

Hi Ethan,
Thank you so much for reading, my dear brother — I love you, too!

Jean de Jong June 27, 2012 at 4:31 pm
Asatar Bair June 27, 2012 at 5:13 pm

Hi Jean,
Thank you for this link. I will check out the video.
take care,

jz June 28, 2012 at 5:43 am

I am 58 years old and since as long as I can remember the world has always been on the “brink of great changes”.

Asatar Bair June 28, 2012 at 9:19 am

Hi JZ,
Thanks for your comment. I would agree. You’d be hard pressed to find any other 58-year period that included such rapid and dramatic change socially, economically, politically and culturally. The challenge we all face is to integrate and make peace with the macro changes around us, as well as the more micro-level changes within us, and indeed, to probe the relationship between macro and micro, outside and inside.
take care,

Alan Tollakson July 11, 2012 at 11:12 am

Thanks for sharing your challenges with us Asatar, and clarifying the difference between the pains of growth and unhappiness. This helps me put some things into perspective!


Asatar Bair July 17, 2012 at 8:20 pm

Thank you, Alan. Nice to hear from you.

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