Knowing Another and Being Known

by Asatar Bair on March 18, 2013

Have you ever felt like you have truly, deeply known someone, like you’ve known them for a thousand years?

What a gift it is to have the sense that you know someone, truly, deeply, know them. And to be known is also a great gift; to feel that someone else sees you, understands you, sympathizes with your struggles, and savors your triumphs.

One of the things that I have found most amazing about the experiences that I’ve shared with my fellow travelers at IAM Heart is that sense of knowing and being known, an incredible sense of connection that completely astounds my rational mind.

There is something magical about sitting in silence with a group of people who share the sincere longing to explore their hearts, in sharing a laugh together, in listening to a song or poem together, in sharing a meal together. These are some of the experiences I shared with my fellow seekers at a recent retreat. (For those who missed it, our east coast retreat is in June.)

I think one reason that longtime friends and family can give you a sense of peace and connection is that they know you, and you know them. But to truly be known means more than just what you’ve done and who you’ve been in the past. You have a future too, in which your being unfolds to reach greater fields of potential. Sometimes the people who have known you for a while don’t see that; for them, your past is too prevalent, and they cannot see the future you that is emerging.

There is something so precious about opening your heart, gazing into the eyes of another, and with love, respect, and courage, knowing them, and being known yourself. I hope you are able to experience that very soon.

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Please share a comment below.


P.S. Susanna’s Invincible Heart 2013 Tour continues this weekend with a stop in Yellow Springs, Ohio.


Molly McCormick March 18, 2013 at 4:17 pm

Glad to see a blog post by you Asatar! I’ve missed your writing! Going to the retreat and being seen through the hearts of so many cracked me wide open. What a wonderful experience and one that I’ve been able to carry through here at home.

Asatar Bair March 18, 2013 at 4:25 pm

Molly, thank you so much for your comment. It was wonderful to sit with you at the retreat.

Valerie March 18, 2013 at 4:40 pm

Asatar, Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this subject…it is something that has been on my mind and in my heart recently. I have a very dear friend who I have only known for a relatively short time and I was thinking the other day how nice it is to have a new friend who in so many ways feels like someone I have known for many many years… but we don’t have a past together. We get together once a week for Bible study and to share successes and goals in each others lives. It is such a gift to celebrate these moments with another.

Asatar Bair March 18, 2013 at 5:00 pm

Hi Valerie,
That sounds like a wonderful friendship. How precious it is to find and share inspiration in a sacred text.
Thank you for your comment

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