What Binds Us, Connects Us

by Asatar Bair on June 20, 2012

[Photo courtesy of Wink]

Do you feel that life has you chained down? Do you long to free yourself from the chains of your obligations, your job, your mortgage, your career, your relationship?

Sometimes we feel so bound up, that we’ve got to get away. We dream of an island of peace and calm.

There are times when we must listen to these feelings, and make real changes in our lives. Not many of us have made our decisions completely based on the deepest yearnings of our hearts. To follow your heart, some corrections to your course may be needed, and this may involve tough choices.

At the same time, whenever we ponder our lives, especially the parts of our lives that really aggravate us, there is a very helpful exercise I would bring to your attention:

Try to see the good in the bad, and the bad in the good.

Life is complex. What seems like poison at the time may prove to be exactly the medicine we needed.

If you feel tied down, consider the ways in which your obligations and responsibilities are also grounding, creating a space on this earth where you are needed. What binds us also connects us. And, as in the case of the image above, the chain that binds you can also be very beautiful.

I’d love to hear your thoughts. Please share a comment here.

Yours in the One Heart,


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Dianna June 20, 2012 at 12:24 pm

Thank you for this today. I have been working with this exact energy lately. I am being drawn to live by leading with my heart, healing with my heart, and of course loving through heart. This sometimes is difficult when I find my reactions to certain situations, and people, to be laced with anger, frustration, resentment and hurt. Wounding of my own heart is only due to my personal reaction is it not? If I was to live purely through heart, I would only know heart. So I am working to see each difficult situation as my own personal lesson in what *I* need to work on, not what the other person needs to change. That is their journey, not mine, to walk. I have enough steps ahead of me that I don’t need to worry about theirs. :) Again, thank you for this today. Being connected is very different than being bound.

Asatar Bair June 20, 2012 at 12:32 pm

Hi Dianna,
The wounds of your heart will drive your behavior in all sorts of ways, but even when they have been healed, you will still experience emotions of anger, frustration, and hurt. Indeed, an open heart is very sensitive. Wounds of the heart are often associated with the past, but life has a way of wounding us again in the present, so we need a powerful method of healing and integrating all of life’s experiences, and I have found that Heart Rhythm Meditation is an ideal method for doing so.
The emotion on your list that is most associated with wounding is resentment. That one is truly a poison for your heart, and it is urgent to work with it so that even if it is still painful, you do not resent it. Resentment closes the doors of the heart, as does criticism, blame, and indifference. So we need to be continually aware of even the smallest trace of these feelings, and work with them, allow the emotion to flow and purify itself, in the same way that a swift-running stream purifies water.
Thank you for your comment! I really feel your sincerity and dedication to living from the heart.

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